2 Effective Ways to win Back Your Wife's Heart
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My wife and I are in a bit of a rut right now and I'm trying to shake things up in our marriage again. Can you give me some tips that I can use to get my wife's attention and have her fall in love with me again?
That's a great question and it's something that most married men struggle with when it comes to their wives, so don't think your the only one going through this.
The last thing anyone wants is to see their marriage fade into oblivion and as a man you don't want to give up on something that you've put years of effort into. Now maybe you've found yourslef in this situation with your marriage.
Maybe you think that things between you and your wife have gotten stale and need a jump start. If you want to win your wife's heart and bring the magic back into your relationship then you're going to have to roll up your sleeves and work for it.
Now before I get into the specifics on what you need to do to get your wife back, I think it's important to acknowldege that marriages are not just something that we set and forget. They're a wierd relationshp that require constant maintenance and tweaking.
You see, the longer a couple stays togeether, the more comfortable they become withe each other which can cause both individuals to fall into a routine. The real problem with this is that the changes that take place within a marriage don't just happen over night. Instead, they are slow and gradual and before you know it two people that live have lived under the same roof for years become sudden strangers.
If you're ready to change the direction of your marraige there are 2 key elements that need to be evaluated and worked on:
1.Identify the changes in your marriage
2.Change how you treat your wife
Identify The Changes In Your Relationship
The first step on the pathway to get your wife back is to look at how your relationship has changed. A good exercise that both you and your wife can do is to get a pen and paper and make a timetable of your day.
Write down your routines from the moment you wake up until you go to bed. When you've got that done, ask yourself " how much time am I wasting in the evening?" When you've got that answer, write it down and mulitply it by 7. This exercise gives you a starting point for fixing your relationship by allowing you to see how much spare time you really have for eachother and how you're using it.
Now don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying that watching TV in the evenings is bad, everyone needs to unwind and watching television is a great way to do this. But what I am saying is that despite your busy schedules, there is time for your marriage and each other but you need to find it and make it a priority.
Ask yourslef this question: " Does my wife feel the same way about me now as she did when we first got married?" If the answer to this quesion is "yes" then you're on the right track. If, however, the answer is "no" then it's time to readjust your relationship and your focus.
What your wife wants is for you to be the man she fell in love with. So if you've let yourself go or you've stopped being ambitious then make a change in your life and become a better person. Women are naturally attracted to men with drive and ambition do keep that in mind as you actively work on bettering yourself and your relationship.
Change How You Treat Your Wife
Do you treat your wife the way you used to? Probably not. It's easy to fall into the routine trap after being with someone for so long and you probably do it to each other. So how do you get out of the old routine and make a change for the better towards your wife?
The answer is simpler than you might think. All you need to do is put her first in your life. Whenever you see her, you need to get in the habit of putting her first by asking yourself the question "what would make her happy right now?"
For example, if you're watching TV after a hard day's work and you're with your wife, ask yourself "what would she really like from me right now?" Maybe she likes foot rubs or back rubs? Either way, putting her first shows her that you value her company and your relationship together which goes a long way to bringing back the magic to your marriage.
Don't make it harder than it needs to be. The key to getting your wife to love you again is as simple as changing how your prioritize your time towards her and then how you use that time when your together. And don't be surprised when she returns the favor.